The Other Side Of Pain


“Remember to let your pain evolve you. Do not let it destroy you.” – Bibi Bourelly

Let it mold you into a better person.

We often forget about this “side of pain”. Most of the times, this pain you’re going through, must be a sign. A sign that you should’ve let go of things, people, habits and more that don’t add up in your life anymore – don’t ignore these signs. The results aren’t positive, but you still can get up and use this “mistake” in your favor. Let it mold you, let it be your motivation to keep AWAY from your heart and mind, feelings like pride, hate, sorrow, cling to the past, toxic relationships…

If we pay more attention, anything in our lives can turn into a lesson or a blessing if we choose to. You may not see it now, but everything will make sense later if you decide to see the other side, yes the other side of pain.

The side that can teach. The side that can open your eyes to things you didn’t see or understand before. The side that can make you realize who’s being real to you, or not. The side that can make you fight for what you really deserve, for your rights, for what you want.

In life, I’m sure you met at least one person who changed her/his quest, their journey after going through something bad in life. They chose the other side, the side of faith and perseverence. The side that didn’t allow them to become prisioners of feelings and circunstances.

“Please, don’t give up on yourselves and understand that even through darkness, there is a light in you that’s waiting to be switched on.” – Bibi Bourelly

And here’s the most important, trust God, He wants to help you. During these moments, let Him heal you, keep a close relationship with Him. After all, the victory will be yours if you have faith.

And if you went through something that is a huge weight on your shoulders, something that you can’t go through alone, pray to God, talk to someone. Share your problems, your feelings, your burdens.  There’s a solution for you, and we care.

God is there for you, I’m here for you, if you need. Don’t let this pain stop your life, don’t let this pain keep you from your brighter future. Don’t let it steal your happiness – there’s always another side and you can experience this freedom.

I really felt inspired while typing this. Feel free to leave your comment, tell me what you think, tell me your experience. What else can be added here? What else fit this subject? Let me know, I need your feedback. I hope it helped you, and if this post is good in your opinion, please, share it! Let’s spread good messages, messages that inspire hope!

Thank you for being here! God bless you, hope you come back soon!

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Read: About Progression ✗ React With Love ✗ Accept Your Past

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The Answer


I won’t lie, the first week of 2017 was very tough for me. So many things happened in eight days… amidst it all, two situations made me feel disappointed with a heavy heart.

I remember that one night I was feeling so drained, there was no one I could talk at that time, so I decided to kneel and cry my heart out to God. Told Him everything that happened to me, everything that I was going through. I asked for forgiveness, patience, faith, strength.

Talked about my frustrations, my mistakes, told Him how I wanted to be a better person, the things I wanted to stop doing…

Asked Him to help and guide the ones I love, and I was completely honest with Him. With a sincere heart and an open mind, I asked God for an answer, for a way out, something to solve the pain, anxiety and confusion I was feeling.

Suddenly, an amazing peace took over me. I finished that prayer being sure that I was heard, all those bad feelings went away.

Wednesday night, I received the answer that I needed:

Hebrews 10:19-25: “A Call to Persevere in Faith”

Therefore, brothers and sisters, since we have confidence to enter the Most Holy Place by the blood of Jesus, by a new and living way opened for us through the curtain, that is, his body, and since we have a great priest over the house of God, let us draw near to God with a sincere heart and with the full assurance that faith brings, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure waterLet us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithfulAnd let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.

What I learned:

God wants you to trust and persevere.

We can have access to God all the time – church isn’t the only place we can meet Him, we don’t need a mediator (besides Jesus). We can talk to Him everywhere, anytime. All we need to do is to have confidence, be bold – He’s our God, He is merciful, He loves us, He saved us and all He wants is to see us happy. To talk with Him, we need a sincere heart because it leads us to His promises, that has been given and kept – and they’re ours! Makes us achieve peace within. He knows who we are – more than ourselves, and there’s no point in hiding who we are or what we feel.

To pray leads us to excercise our faith, replace bad thoughts and feelings with good things. Makes us believe that we can overcome bad situations, makes us trust when we can’t see where we’re going, or when we don’t understand why we’re going through these things.

When we have that relationship, it’s so much easier to forgive. So much easier to truly encourage other people to do better and be positive. When we get this support, all we want to do is the same with the next person – and this action makes us christians.

That night I learned so much about Him, so much about myself and so much about the ones I love that were going through hard times… no one could ever understand me like He did. No one could give me that kind of love and support. That night I felt stronger, ready, cleaned from all evil.

Instead of being stressed out, complaining, nervous about others’ opinions, pray.

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Persevere in faith.

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Happy Thanksgiving!

I’m thankful for life, I’m thankful for this day.

Life ain’t easy, we gotta fight every day, we gotta survive, overcome trials and tribulations, but I know I’m not alone. There’s a God above looking out for me, for you, for us.

And I’m thankful for His grace. His will to make me win, His forgiveness, and for everything He’s providing me. Thankful because He’s always reminding me that there are more important things to live for, to look up to. I’m thankful because He never gave up on me.

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I’m thankful and I won’t give up, doesn’t matter how I’m feeling, doesn’t matter what happens around me. I’m thankful for the good and bad times. Thankful for everyone who loves and understands me – I love you all, thankful for the ones who dislike me – you’re always pushing me to be better, thankful for the one who inspires me, the one who gave me a mission.

Thankful  ❤ God bless you allI love each one of you, thank you for being here, thank you for your support, thank you for giving me a chance to show what I have to offer, a chance to show you what I like, what I have to say. I’m thankful for your life 🙂

Be happy, and please, don’t forget about God! Pray, talk to Him! Believe that you are a gift in this world, you have a purpose! Chase your dreams and fulfill each one!

Thank you!

Não vos entregueis…

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“Não andeis, pois, a indagar o que haveis de comer ou beber e não vos entregueis a inquietações.” Lucas 12:29

Arte por Clarae 

Pois é meus amigos, pode parecer até uma tarefa difícil, mas não é impossível! Qual ser humano nunca passou por essa situação? Existem muitas coisas nessa vida que podem nos angustiar, existem muitas questões, internas e externas, que insistem em aparecer em nossos pensamentos e que nos deixam inquietos, que tiram até o sono.

E o que dizer quando vivemos em um mundo de total inquietude e incertezas em diversas áreas? Pessoas que se consomem todos os dias por sentimentos e pensamentos que as fazem perder a calma, que as fazem brigar umas com as outras, que as deixam tristes, e incapazes de mudar o que precisa ser mudado, incapazes de fazer o que precisa ser feito.

Ou até mesmo atropelam as coisas, colocando em dúvida sua crença, impedindo que o plano de Deus se concretize. É aquela pessoa que “mete os pés pelas mãos” por querer adiantar o acontecimento, seja a consequência boa ou ruim.

Digo isso por experiência própria, porque eu mesma já passei – e até criei – situações que me deixaram com um peso nas costas, preocupações e questionamentos que me consumiam, que não me levaram a lugar algum… mas eu aprendi uma maneira eficaz de superar isso, uma forma de ter paz e principalmente de ter certeza no meu coração:

“Não andeis ansiosos de coisa alguma; em tudo, porém sejam conhecidas diante de Deus, as vossas petições, pela oração e pela súplica, com ações de graças. E a paz de Deus, que excede todo o entendimento, guardará o vosso coração e a vossa mente em Cristo Jesus.” – Filipenses 4:6, 7.

Através da oração, eu aprendi muita coisa. Eu falo com Deus, Ele ouve e me responde, e essa resposta acontece quando o que tanto me agitava, quando aquilo que tanto me agoniava dá lugar a paz, que vem de dentro. E essa paz, te dirige! Suas atitudes já não são mais desesperadas, seu falar já não é mais de lamentações, e o seu semblante já não está mais caído.

Deus se importa com você, e com tudo que faz parte da sua vida. Ele não quer te ver atribulado, sem confiança e consequentemente perdido em suas ações. Mas Ele quer cuidar de você, do seu presente, e claro do seu futuro sabe por quê? Porque Ele zela pelos seus interesses. Ele sabe de todas as coisas, e certamente tem um plano para a sua vida.

Você pode até não entender o porquê disso ou daquilo, mas lá na frente tudo fará sentido, e você será uma pessoa mais forte e mais preparada para receber o que tanto você buscou.

Por isso, não sofra por antecipação. Não se preocupe com o seu amanhã, ou como será a sua vida daqui a cinco, dez, vinte anos… Mas entregue a sua vida a Àquele que pode te ajudar com tudo. Na sua oração, fale francamente, e quando você passar por alguma situação que tente te paralisar, te preocupar, te deixar ansioso lembre-se de que isso não resolve nada, e que Deus não deseja isso! Leia esses versículos e ore. Deus irá te ajudar!

Se você gostou desse texto, se você foi ajudado de alguma forma, ou acha que pode ajudar alguém que conhece, compartilhe essa postagem! Se você está passando por essa situação, já passou, ou quer apenas deixar algum pensamento sobre o assunto, comente! Será um grande prazer te responder.

Meus queridos, até a próxima!

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“And do not seek what you will eat and what you will drink, and do not keep worrying.” Luke 12:29

My friends, it may seem a difficult task, but it’s not impossible! What human being has never experienced this situation? There are many things in this life that can distress you, there are issues, internal and external, that insist and appear in our thoughts and leave us restless, without sleeping.

We live in a world full of anxiety and uncertainty in various areas. People who consume their lives every day with feelings and thoughts that make them lose their temper, that make them fight each other, that leave them sad and unable to change what needs to be changed, unable to do what needs to be done .

It makes them run over things, putting in doubt their beliefs, preventing God’s plan. It is the person who “puts his foot in it” for wanting to advance the event, whether good or bad result.

I say this from experience, because, I myself, been through- even created – situations that left me with a weight on my shoulders, concerns and questions that consumed me, which did not take me anywhere … but I learned an effective way to overcome this , a way to have peace in my heart:

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus “- Phil. 4: 6, 7.

Through prayer, I learned a lot. I talk to God, He listens to me and answers me, and this answer happens with peace that comes from within. My attitudes were no longer of desperation, my conversation is no longer about lamentations…

God cares about you, and with everything that is part of your life. He does not want to see you troubled, without trust and consequently lost in your actions. But He wants to take care of you, your present, and of course your future, wanna know why? Because He cares for your interests. He knows all things, and certainly has a plan for your life.

You may not understand why this or that, but soon everything will make sense and you will be stronger and more prepared to receive what you wanted.

So do not suffer in anticipation. Do not worry about your tomorrow, or how your life will be in five, ten, twenty years… But give your life to Him who can help you with everything. In your prayer, speak frankly, and when you go through a situation that tries to paralyze you, worry you, or makes you anxious, remember that this does not solve anything, and that God does not want that! Read these verses and pray. God will help you!

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XO, until next time!